That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.
And pity--people who inspire it in you are actually very powerful people. To get someone else to take care of you, to feel sorry for you--that takes a lot of strength, smarts, manipulation. Very powerful people.
The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all.
People are secretive when they have secrets.
Maybe a person's world can grow bigger in all the right ways, not too wide that it becomes shallow, just large enough to preserve its depth.