[So go ahead, say the experts, acknowledge that anger and let other people know what you're feeling. When women are conscious of this strong sensation, says Cox, they have a better chance of using it in a constructive way. Anger is just a bodily reaction, a signal that a wrong has taken place, something needs correcting or the demands on a woman exceed her ability to handle them.] We don't have choices about when we feel it, ... But we do have choices about what we do with it.
[Find a physical release. Though jogging and other physical activities can be helpful, Cox advocates an anger workout: hitting a mattress with a tennis racket or slapping the sofa with a bat when you really start to see red. The key, says Cox, is to talk as you thwack the furniture. Engaging large muscle groups along with your voice should help you work through some of your fury. Kickboxing or Tae-Bo may give the same results.] Some women feel less likely to lose it if they have a physical release first, ... When a client tells me: 'If I really let it out, we'd all burst into flames,' then I might suggest an anger workout.