Love heals. If you doubt it, you need more of it. How do you get more of it? By giving more of it. Love is not just for romantic relationships, not just for 'family'. Love is not just for people. Beneath the colourful emotions, socialized behaviours and cultured concepts of being 'partners' in love, love is the recognition of our own soul matter in another being. The more recognition, the greater the degree of attachment. Every body, every living thing on earth is made up of essentially the same energy and particle and spirit matter. Here's the magic. We recognise this bond wherever we look for it. Next time you see a leaf, consider the veins. Next time you're in the company of an animal consider the sensation, (sight, sound, feeling,) of breathing. Look into the eyes of every creature whenever, wherever possible and be open to the recognition of all that we, ourselves are made up of. Take a detailed account of every mother-infant relationship, every friendship, every co-existence, every life bound spirit. It's been said before that love knows no boundaries..
When I say 'I won't hurt you', it's a promise, which can and will be kept but it does not come from me without a breakdown of what it means. It does not mean we will never disagree, nor does it mean that you will always like everything which I say or do. It does not mean that you will never hurt yourself by behaving in a way which is damaging to a relationship or by behaving in a way which would ultimately result in my withdrawal from your life. What it does mean is that I can promise all that I expect in terms of loyalty, honor and respect. It means I am faithful. It also means that I will not intentionally or carelessly behave in a way which causes upset or doubt. It means, at the lowest level, 'You will break these terms before I do.'Communication is essential. Trust is paramount. Be completely honest and don't make promises that you can't keep, that's all.