Every human being is spirit and truth is the self-activity of appropriation.
The self-deceived person may even think he is able to console others who became victims of perfidious deception, but what insanity when someone who himself has lost the eternal wants to heal the person who is extremely sick unto death!
When a person considers himself esthetically his soul is like soil out of which grow all sorts of herbs, all with equal claim to flourish; his self consists of this multiplicity, and he has no self that is higher than this. Pt. 2, Hong p. 225
When the first self submits to the deeper self, they are reconciled and walk on together.
Spiritual love, on the other hand, takes away from myself all natural determinants and all self-love. Therefore love for my neighbor cannot make me one with the neighbor in a united self. Love to one's neighbor is love between two individual beings, each eternally qualified as spirit.
Only one deception is possible in the infinite sense, self-deception.
Far from the self succeeding increasingly in being itself, it becomes increasingly obvious that it is a hypothetical self.