If I marry: He must be so tall that when he is on his knees, as one has said he reaches all the way to heaven. His shoulders must be broad enough to bear the burden of a family. His lips must be strong enough to smile, firm enough to say no, and tender enough to kiss. Love must be so deep that it takes its stand in Christ and so wide that it takes the whole lost world in. He must be active enough to save souls. He must be big enough to be gentle and great enough to be thoughtful. His arms must be strong enough to carry a little child.
Many kids have experienced sexual abuse in some form or another and it has wounded them deeply and ruined any hope for making sexual purity a goal. If that is the case with someone reading this, and it is still going on then tell someone you can trust and get out of the situation as soon as possible. But also there is healing and restoration. There is a God that loves you and can heal every wound you have and make you new. I'm living proof that God can use the most horrific experience for the greatest good beyond what you could ever imagine. Obviously if you watch any amount of television then what it will tell you is that it is un-cool to have sexual purity or to save yourself for marriage. If you go to public school it's the same thing. The part you don't see so often is the cost of having sex outside of God's bounderies. The cost is always death, physically, spiritually or emotionally. Many non-Christians support sexual purity because the whole world has seen the way sex outside of God's boundaries can steal, kill and destroy lives. God didn't give us rules about sex so we could be restricted, but so that we could be free. God made the whole idea up and he says that sex is good. But only within the boundaries that he set for it. We cheapen it to the extreme when we go outside those boundaries.