I take it as a man's duty to restrain himself.
duty man
The dead cannot cry out for justice it is a duty of the living to do so for them.
duty
His outflung hands traced over the threads of his rug, passed loop by loop through some patient woman's hands. Or maybe she hadn't been patient. Maybe she'd been tired, or irritated, or distracted, or hungry, or angry. Maybe she had been dying. But her hands had kept moving, all the same.