The moment you put someone on a pedestal they will look down upon you. The trick is respecting each other equally.
You can't love someone just by looking at them. That is lust. Not saying love can't come fast, but it doesn't come first.
Lust is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
Here is how you know if it is love or lust. Push them in front of a bus. If you jump in the way and save them it is love.