Worlds can be found by a child and an adult bending down and looking together under the grass stems or at the skittering crabs in a tidal pool.
Of any stopping place in life, it is good to ask whether it will be a good place from which to go on as well as a good place to remain.
No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a really nice man who wishes she were not.
The truth that survives is simply the lie that is pleasantest to believe.
The saddest life is that of a political aspirant under democracy. His failure is ignominious and his success is disgraceful.
The timing of death, like the ending of a story, gives a changed meaning to what preceded it.
Goals too clearly defined can become blinkers.
It's all about being in control of myself as an older woman who lives alone, and it's all about how I am going to do what I have to do to be as strong as I can be and be confident that I can do what I need to do as an older person. [p. 62]
Since few people arrive at retirement with an understanding that this transition will involve a rethinking of who they are, an interim pattern has emerged, in which travel offers a way of fulfilling deferred daydreams of adventure while the next stage takes shape. [p. 31]
Sorting gets harder as time goes on--it requires a sort of ruthless decisiveness, while indecision results in endless dithering. Five moves, they say, equal a fire. But those who haven't moved may begin to need a fire. [p. 38]
Moving is both liberating and debilitating. Undertaken too late, it is a very stressful process, one that sometimes seems to catapult people into frail old age, and undertaken too soon, it may preempt other possibilities. [p. 38]
After all, most of us have lived lives based on commitments made without any way of knowing where they would lead. The uncertainty is an essential element in commitment, the acceptance of consequences an essential element in fidelity. [p. 80]
.. --an entire cohort with something new to offer to the world as years of experience combined with continuing health. [p. 52]
.. As we age we have not only to readdress earlier developmental crises but also somehow to find the way to three affirmations that may seem to conflict... We have to affirm our own life. We have to affirm our own death. And we have to affirm love, both given and received. [p. 88]
As people grow older, some of the ways they have contributed in the past may no longer be possible, but the challenge to society is not only to provide help and care where these are needed but also to offer the opportunity to contribute and care for others [p. 8]